I really get annoyed when...

Senshi_of_Vision · Post by **Senshi_of_Vision** » Fri Nov 23, 2007 6:37 pm

Im annoyed with my SISP right now. I pay 70 dollars a month I expect to be able to get online. I spent the latter part of the afternoon into the evening with a tech who sounded like he was from Calcutta. Only to find out that I needed to unplug the modem and wireless router for 60 seconds and then put it back on. My head hurts x_x I really wish we could get dsl this way *stomps off mumbling about too many fields not enough city*

Passions55 · Post by **Passions55** » Tue Dec 04, 2007 1:45 pm

I'm annoyed with the fact that my parents are so judmental of my older sister. My older sister is going through a tough time and had an emotinal break down and my parents seemed more mortified than sympathatic that she ended up in the hospital.

Senshi_of_Vision · Post by **Senshi_of_Vision** » Tue Dec 04, 2007 3:19 pm

Passions55 wrote:I'm annoyed with the fact that my parents are so judmental of my older sister. My older sister is going through a tough time and had an emotinal break down and my parents seemed more mortified than sympathatic that she ended up in the hospital.

Its sad but ive personally dealt with that myself. I was hospitalized a couple of times after nervous breakdowns. Many in my family refuse to talk about it still. Its like a taboo or something to have those kinds of problems. Many families dont even try to reach out due to being embarassed by it and it never made any sense to me. At least your sister has you sometimes all a person needs is someone to understand that its not their fault things got to be too much.

Post by **Tiff** » Tue Dec 04, 2007 5:34 pm

Passions55 wrote:I'm annoyed with the fact that my parents are so judmental of my older sister. My older sister is going through a tough time and had an emotinal break down and my parents seemed more mortified than sympathatic that she ended up in the hospital.

Then your sister is lucky to have you. Keep giving her the support she needs. *nods*

Rin · Post by **Rin** » Mon Dec 10, 2007 10:54 pm

Posts on forums like these.

Ok, as an offshoot from a discussion thats been roaming in my head for a while... let's talk about children. we have already discussed here more than once about teh ethics of having kids in today's world, but that's a different discussion. What I'd like some input on is the "who should raise the children" question.
The society has a long tradition in foistering child care upon the mother, and in most cases the mother only. The motehr is the one who is expected in most cases to take time off work, put her career on hold, etc in order to raise a child. "OK , some would say, but the father ( assuming they are married and/or living together) will work and support both so that works out fine".
Does it?
What happens if they divorce? Remember, 60% of marriages end up in divorce. What happens when the woman find that she has wasted valuable career time in order to have a baby?
Why would the woman be the only one who should sacrifice herself?
( please keep the moronic "because that's what women do" comments for TCC or other bullshitting places).
It takes 2 people to have a child, should not both take the same responsibilities in raising it? Should the state be a part of it as well?
Should the system be changed so that women are not profesionally punished because they had kids ( again, do not come with the bullshit "they aren't being punished", unless you are a moron. If that is the case please abstain from posting here. taking time off work does affect your career. your skills might become outdated, you migth miss on promotions, etc. That is punishment.)

what mother feels like she's "wasted valuable career time" on a baby when she gets divorced?

Post by **Tiff** » Mon Dec 10, 2007 11:09 pm

Rin wrote:
what mother feels like she's "wasted valuable career time" on a baby when she gets divorced?

..Yes, I'm being "punished" because I had to stop teaching for a while.

DIAF, lady.

Senshi_of_Vision · Post by **Senshi_of_Vision** » Mon Dec 10, 2007 11:33 pm

Wow so many things wrong with that womans statement. Most women who can choose to stay home and care for their children hardly focus on what they may lose out on by not being in the work force. And those who do generally try to go back to work once their children are old enough to be weaned from them. Also in this day and age a stay at home mother can still learn and utilize skills they can bring into the workforce with the help of the internet and other technology. So that whole losing learning potential that will hinder promotions is b.s. in my opinion. Now adays you can even further your college career from home which alot of moms who stay at home with their child(ren) (myself included) utilize and is worth the money. I know when I go back to the work place I can bring the skills I already know along with the ones ive learned from online school. Whoever she is needs to learn that not all women feel that staying at home means giving up the life they had in the workplace nor do we feel its going to be detrimental to us in the future because being a mother is in itself several different jobs and you can learn and grow from.
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Rivalee · Post by **Rivalee** » Tue Dec 11, 2007 6:03 am

I get annoyed when people don't take me seriously when I tell them that I want to live a sexless, childfree single-life (I tell them that when asked why I'm still single). They just say that I will change my mind when I met the right one, and some people even ask if there is something wrong with me.
Can't they just accept that I have choosed to be asexual? Well, at least mom accept it, and that's good. But it would be much better if others could stop treating me like a freak.

Post by **Tiff** » Tue Dec 11, 2007 11:12 am

Rivalee wrote:I get annoyed when people don't take me seriously when I tell them that I want to live a sexless, childfree single-life (I tell them that when asked why I'm still single). They just say that I will change my mind when I met the right one, and some people even ask if there is something wrong with me.
Can't they just accept that I have choosed to be asexual? Well, at least mom accept it, and that's good. But it would be much better if others could stop treating me like a freak.

People have a hard time grasping things they don't understand. It doesn't excuse them treating you like a freak, but ignorance can be a powerful thing, especially when it spawns negatively.

Just know that the people who MATTER (your mom) understand, and for now, that's all that's important. *Hugs*

Passions55 · Post by **Passions55** » Tue Dec 11, 2007 11:31 am

Rivalee wrote:I get annoyed when people don't take me seriously when I tell them that I want to live a sexless, childfree single-life (I tell them that when asked why I'm still single). They just say that I will change my mind when I met the right one, and some people even ask if there is something wrong with me.
Can't they just accept that I have choosed to be asexual? Well, at least mom accept it, and that's good. But it would be much better if others could stop treating me like a freak.

I feel your pain, I have sort of made the same choice to live a single sexless life. But for different reasons. I too get the same flack from people for this reason. Initially my desion was based on the fact that I wanted to wait till I was married to become intimate with a guy. This was influenced in part because of religious beliefs and also because, personally, I'm a little turned off on today's standard to have multiple lovers through out ones life. I'm not judgmental about it, I don't think other girls who have had sex before marriage or has had more than one lover in their life is immoral or wrong (so long as it's not blatant promiscuity), if that is what works for you than fine, but I'm choosing to go it this way. I wanted to wait till I was married but since I hit my twenties I'm realizing how unrealistic that is. Once you are out of your teenage years, it's not OK with guys to say you don't want a relationship with sex in it. It's just doesn't fly well with them, and I'm starting to wonder if this is something that guys just can't wrap their head around. I've been in relationships but almost all of them have ended badly. I've had potentical boyfriends flat out say that can't accept that from a girlfriend, which is fine I would rather a guy be upfront on what they want than for them to do what other guys have done to me: say they under stand and then when we are in the relationship keep pestering me of when we are going to do it, and then act like I am a bitch for saying no like this is something new even though I made things clear from the beginning about the sex thing. So after all that hassle I've decided that maybe it's better that I stay away from relationships since it's clear my ideals aren't that realistic and most guys aren't going to accept with them.

But you know is the wost judges when it comes to my descion about being single, are women. They act like I'm a freak, or they ask me if I'm gay or if I've been raped at some point in my life and wander if that is why I won't "put out". It seems that unless you have a revolving door on your bedroom you ain't normal.

Post by **Tiff** » Tue Dec 11, 2007 1:01 pm

Once you are out of your teenage years, it's not OK with guys to say you don't want a relationship with sex in it. It's just doesn't fly well with them, and I'm starting to wonder if this is something that guys just can't wrap their head around. I've been in relationships but almost all of them have ended badly. I've had potentical boyfriends flat out say that can't accept that from a girlfriend, which is fine I would rather a guy be upfront on what they want than for them to do what other guys have done to me: say they under stand and then when we are in the relationship keep pestering me of when we are going to do it, and then act like I am a bitch for saying no like this is something new even though I made things clear from the beginning about the sex thing. So after all that hassle I've decided that maybe it's better that I stay away from relationships since it's clear my ideals aren't that realistic and most guys aren't going to accept with them.

While I'm not saying you haven't had the experiences you say you have (believe me, I know the type)...generalizing every guy as that type just isn't right.

My husband happens to be a perfect example.

And quite frankly...I'm not a guy, and I honestly couldn't be in a relationship without physical intimacy/sex. It'd be very hard for me. I enjoy all aspects of what I share with my husband, including the physical part of it, and I'm a very sexual being. No, i've never had multiple partners or slepta round...but I spent the latter half of my last long relationship with a man who preferred video games and masturbation to touching me, and that hurt. It hurt a lot. I couldn't stand it, and it affected me badly, especially since the avoidance started after I was sexually assaulted and I believed that to be part of the reason why he wouldn't touch me.

So my point is that it DOES go both ways, and it isn't only guys who crave/need sex in a relationship. I'm VERY grateful to have a healthy sexual relationship with my husband, since I have already gone through an unhealthy one.

Also, to be honest...giving up sex entirely simply because you've had guys pressure you a little too much...I dunno. I wouldn't give up so easily. This isn't something you've felt your entire life. You stated yourself that before, you jus twanted to wait until you're married. That's smart, and fair. But then, you stated that becuase you've dealt with shitty relationships, you suddenly don't want sex/intimacy at all. That seems more like a cause-effect thing, and not a lifestyle that has been with you for most of your adult life.

Just keep that in mind, and don't shut out anybody and everybody that wants to get close to you.

jupiter23 · Post by **jupiter23** » Tue Dec 11, 2007 4:59 pm

Passions55 wrote:
Rivalee wrote:I get annoyed when people don't take me seriously when I tell them that I want to live a sexless, childfree single-life (I tell them that when asked why I'm still single). They just say that I will change my mind when I met the right one, and some people even ask if there is something wrong with me.
Can't they just accept that I have choosed to be asexual? Well, at least mom accept it, and that's good. But it would be much better if others could stop treating me like a freak.
I feel your pain, I have sort of made the same choice to live a single sexless life. But for different reasons. I too get the same flack from people for this reason. Initially my desion was based on the fact that I wanted to wait till I was married to become intimate with a guy. This was influenced in part because of religious beliefs and also because, personally, I'm a little turned off on today's standard to have multiple lovers through out ones life. I'm not judgmental about it, I don't think other girls who have had sex before marriage or has had more than one lover in their life is immoral or wrong (so long as it's not blatant promiscuity), if that is what works for you than fine, but I'm choosing to go it this way. I wanted to wait till I was married but since I hit my twenties I'm realizing how unrealistic that is. Once you are out of your teenage years, it's not OK with guys to say you don't want a relationship with sex in it. It's just doesn't fly well with them, and I'm starting to wonder if this is something that guys just can't wrap their head around. I've been in relationships but almost all of them have ended badly. I've had potentical boyfriends flat out say that can't accept that from a girlfriend, which is fine I would rather a guy be upfront on what they want than for them to do what other guys have done to me: say they under stand and then when we are in the relationship keep pestering me of when we are going to do it, and then act like I am a bitch for saying no like this is something new even though I made things clear from the beginning about the sex thing. So after all that hassle I've decided that maybe it's better that I stay away from relationships since it's clear my ideals aren't that realistic and most guys aren't going to accept with them.

But you know is the wost judges when it comes to my descion about being single, are women. They act like I'm a freak, or they ask me if I'm gay or if I've been raped at some point in my life and wander if that is why I won't "put out". It seems that unless you have a revolving door on your bedroom you ain't normal.

Also bear in mind that anyone who would push you into doing something you don't want to do, even after hearing your reasons for it and saying they respect them, isn't worth wasting your time over. A lot of the guys I've met were the same way, and almost all the guys I know have had at least one sexual encounter. People think I'm insane when I tell them I'd rather wait until I'm married to the guy before I'll have sex with him, and at the same time some people think I'm insane because I don't want to have kids. It's all about personal choice, and yes, they're going to think your weird for it, but remember that it's your choice to make, not theirs.

Rin · Post by **Rin** » Wed Dec 12, 2007 12:02 am

I've been getting annoyed with girls at my college. They wear very small tops, showing A LOT of cleavage, and they'll often wear short skirts, and then they complain that their male teachers are staring at them.

Um hello, if you're going to show it, they're going to stare. And if you don't want certain guys staring at you then cover yourself up.

Good god even I stare at these girls.

Passions, keep looking, you will eventually find a guy who respects your sexual decisions.

peachvampiress · Post by **peachvampiress** » Wed Dec 12, 2007 4:00 am

Rin

I've been getting annoyed with girls at my college. They wear very small tops, showing A LOT of cleavage, and they'll often wear short skirts, and then they complain that their male teachers are staring at them.

Um hello, if you're going to show it, they're going to stare. And if you don't want certain guys staring at you then cover yourself up.

Good god even I stare at these girls.

Better yet are the girls who wear shirts like this and throw a fit at people who are OMG sexists PIGS for staring are their chest (because they couldn't possibly be trying to read their shirt.)

Passions55 · Post by **Passions55** » Wed Dec 12, 2007 1:35 pm

Tiff wrote:
While I'm not saying you haven't had the experiences you say you have (believe me, I know the type)...generalizing every guy as that type just isn't right.

you are right about that, not every guy is the cut from the same clothe, and I didn't really mean to group the whole male sex together with the few guys that I have dealt. My statemnt was really refereing to the guys that I have dealt with personaly that have led me to believe that. I know there is probably guys out there that are very under standing.

My husband happens to be a perfect example.

And quite frankly...I'm not a guy, and I honestly couldn't be in a relationship without physical intimacy/sex. It'd be very hard for me. I enjoy all aspects of what I share with my husband, including the physical part of it, and I'm a very sexual being.

Oh don't get me wrong, I have those urges and I certainly enjoy seeing a good looking guy and being close to one. I really like hugging, cuddling, and snuggling and that sort of thing, and I have definately felt tempted to go all the way with guys that I've been particularly attracted to or have made me feel hot, and that is when I find it hardest to stck to my priniciples, when I want it almost as bad as they do. In fact when I was 20 I was with a guy that I was just over the moon for and I decided that maybe my descion to wait till I was married was a little inpractical and maybe just waiting for the right guy would be better, and this guy had been great and he said that he under stood my feelings about no sex thing, and I thought maybe he could be that special some one. Problem is I caught him sleeping with another girl. I can't tell you how much that hurt. I was was seriously in love with the guy enough to bend my own rules, and he does this to me. Needless to say I broke up with him. But I realized that I probably would have felt worse if I had slept with him and then found out he was cheating on me. My point? I have the same kind of sexual desires as any other woman, so I don't want you to think that I just don't have them or that I'm cold or anything. I'm glad though that you have a very healthy relationship with your husband. A couple whether they are married or not should be able to enjoy them selves on all levels

No, i've never had multiple partners or slepta round...but I spent the latter half of my last long relationship with a man who preferred video games and masturbation to touching me, and that hurt. It hurt a lot. I couldn't stand it, and it affected me badly, especially since the avoidance started after I was sexually assaulted and I believed that to be part of the reason why he wouldn't touch me.

So my point is that it DOES go both ways, and it isn't only guys who crave/need sex in a relationship. I'm VERY grateful to have a healthy sexual relationship with my husband, since I have already gone through an unhealthy one.

I know that it goes both ways, and like I said above, it's not like I don't have them. I am very sorry that you experience sexual mistreatment and that you felt that that it affected your boyfriend's feelings toward you. But at least now you have a man who loves you both physically and spiritually

.

Also, to be honest...giving up sex entirely simply because you've had guys pressure you a little too much...I dunno. I wouldn't give up so easily. This isn't something you've felt your entire life. You stated yourself that before, you jus twanted to wait until you're married. That's smart, and fair. But then, you stated that becuase you've dealt with shitty relationships, you suddenly don't want sex/intimacy at all. That seems more like a cause-effect thing, and not a lifestyle that has been with you for most of your adult life.

you may have point there, perhaps it wasn't fair for me to compare my descions to Rivalee who seems to have a diffrent motivation than I do. And maybe I won't stick to this descion. It's jusat that I think I should stay away from getting involved with any body until I get my priorites straight and what I want in a relationship clear to my self before I jump into another one rather than pissing off a new guy with my descions.

Just keep that in mind, and don't shut out anybody and everybody that wants to get close to you.

This is good advice and I do have this problem with letting people getting close to me. I don't know why but I have some trust issues. But that is another issue.

Post by **Tiff** » Wed Dec 12, 2007 2:02 pm

Passions55 wrote:
you may have point there, perhaps it wasn't fair for me to compare my descions to Rivalee who seems to have a diffrent motivation than I do. And maybe I won't stick to this descion. It's jusat that I think I should stay away from getting involved with any body until I get my priorites straight and what I want in a relationship clear to my self before I jump into another one rather than pissing off a new guy with my descions.

That's the key...it's only fair to yourself and for the other party involved for you to both know what you want, and what your priorities are. I hope you figure that out without any more pain, becuase that kind of pain from relationships can really affect a person, and it's sad to see it happen to anybody.

This is good advice and I do have this problem with letting people getting close to me. I don't know why but I have some trust issues. But that is another issue.

Believe me, I understand trust issues. I have some myself.

Queen Of Hearts · Post by **Queen Of Hearts** » Thu Dec 13, 2007 7:49 pm

I was at my schools nurses office for the frist time. Wow, it was insane.

I have gym class right after lunch (WHOS SMART IDEA WAS THAT?!), and I was not feeling good all day, had my period, bad mood. Just an all around bad day.

At the end of gym class, I feel like I'm going to be sick, so I get sent to the nurses office. Lady says "Oh well, we can't do anything untill you actually throw up, so why not lay down?"

I lay down. Then a girl comes in.
She says "Well, I am allergic to penuts, and my friend had a PB&j sandwich for lunch, and I think some got on me"

..10 minutes later and ambulance comes for her. As her the following questions-
"Can you breathe?"
"Yes :D"
"Can you swallow?"
"Yes :D"
"Do you feel good?"
"Yes :D"
"Okay, we are going to hook you up the the IV and heart meter, and your going to spend the night in the hospital."
"Okay! :D"

"How did you get Penut butter on you?"
"Oh, I just think I may have gotten some penut bacteria on me :D I'm not even super allergic! :D"

So, I feel really sick, and I'm forced to lay down and "drink flat coke" (Eww ;_; ), while this girl, who looks and sounds COMPLETELY healthy gets carried away to the hospital, while I am left completly helpless.

I don't get sick, but I get picked up anyway, after I start feeling really bad, and then good.

My mom tells me the nurse said "I was hugging the toilet and crying, so I should be, lyke, picked up"

-_-

Sailormars Obsessed fan · Post by **Sailormars Obsessed fan** » Thu Dec 13, 2007 8:27 pm

Queen Of Hearts wrote:I was at my schools nurses office for the frist time. Wow, it was insane.

I have gym class right after lunch (WHOS SMART IDEA WAS THAT?!), and I was not feeling good all day, had my period, bad mood. Just an all around bad day.

At the end of gym class, I feel like I'm going to be sick, so I get sent to the nurses office. Lady says "Oh well, we can't do anything untill you actually throw up, so why not lay down?"

I lay down. Then a girl comes in.
She says "Well, I am allergic to penuts, and my friend had a PB&j sandwich for lunch, and I think some got on me"

..10 minutes later and ambulance comes for her. As her the following questions-
"Can you breathe?"
"Yes "
"Can you swallow?"
"Yes "
"Do you feel good?"
"Yes "
"Okay, we are going to hook you up the the IV and heart meter, and your going to spend the night in the hospital."
"Okay! "

"How did you get Penut butter on you?"
"Oh, I just think I may have gotten some penut bacteria on me I'm not even super allergic! "

So, I feel really sick, and I'm forced to lay down and "drink flat coke" (Eww ;_; ), while this girl, who looks and sounds COMPLETELY healthy gets carried away to the hospital, while I am left completly helpless.

I don't get sick, but I get picked up anyway, after I start feeling really bad, and then good.

My mom tells me the nurse said "I was hugging the toilet and crying, so I should be, lyke, picked up"

-_-

your lucky they werent doing the eye or head lice tests. you would have been sent back to class because they were too busy.

Queen Of Hearts · Post by **Queen Of Hearts** » Thu Dec 13, 2007 8:33 pm

Sailormars Obsessed fan wrote:
Queen Of Hearts wrote:I was at my schools nurses office for the frist time. Wow, it was insane.

I have gym class right after lunch (WHOS SMART IDEA WAS THAT?!), and I was not feeling good all day, had my period, bad mood. Just an all around bad day.

At the end of gym class, I feel like I'm going to be sick, so I get sent to the nurses office. Lady says "Oh well, we can't do anything untill you actually throw up, so why not lay down?"

I lay down. Then a girl comes in.
She says "Well, I am allergic to penuts, and my friend had a PB&j sandwich for lunch, and I think some got on me"

..10 minutes later and ambulance comes for her. As her the following questions-
"Can you breathe?"
"Yes "
"Can you swallow?"
"Yes "
"Do you feel good?"
"Yes "
"Okay, we are going to hook you up the the IV and heart meter, and your going to spend the night in the hospital."
"Okay! "

"How did you get Penut butter on you?"
"Oh, I just think I may have gotten some penut bacteria on me I'm not even super allergic! "

So, I feel really sick, and I'm forced to lay down and "drink flat coke" (Eww ;_; ), while this girl, who looks and sounds COMPLETELY healthy gets carried away to the hospital, while I am left completly helpless.

I don't get sick, but I get picked up anyway, after I start feeling really bad, and then good.

My mom tells me the nurse said "I was hugging the toilet and crying, so I should be, lyke, picked up"

-_-
your lucky they werent doing the eye or head lice tests. you would have been sent back to class because they were too busy.

No, we get those in the begining of the year, and even then, only the freshmen get them (I did them on the first day of school)

God I hate those things.
They didn't send me back, because if I threw up, I would have been sent back anyway >_>;;

Also, my Mother was already there to pick me up, BEFORE the ambulance camre for her, they wouldn't let her in, or let me out. Bastards >_>

Sailormars Obsessed fan · Post by **Sailormars Obsessed fan** » Thu Dec 13, 2007 8:38 pm

I saw someone who was having throat pains get sent back to class when I was getting the eye test, because the nurse was too busy.

school nurses tend to suck