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Birthday/Christmas presents. Your opinion.

Post by peachvampiress » Sun Dec 04, 2005 12:46 am

This is something I've been thinking about for a while, and was wondering what everyone's opinion on it was. Does anyone here have a friend or relative that has a birthday right before Christmas? If you do, how do you handle the whole gift giving thing. Do you give two seperate gifts, one for the birthday and one for Christmas, or do you just give them one gift that's their Birthday and Christmas present?

When I was little, my mom and I visited one of her relatives. The relatives daughter had a birthday right before Christmas and mom did the one gift "this is you B-day/Christmas present" thing, and growing up that's what I thought a person should do.

Well, my friend Robyn has her Birthday five days before Christmas and doesn't appriciate the whole one gift for both occasions way of thinking. Now she's not a bitch about it or anything, and I can kind of see where she's coming from, but I don't think it makes me a cheap bastard if I get her one thing, as long as it's not something useless and stupid.

See this is what I think should be the options:

1.) Two gifts for both occasions or

2.) One gift for both occasions, but it's a good gift.

Any thoughts on this? Or suggestions?
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Post by Kameko » Sun Dec 04, 2005 1:03 am

Personally I would get two presents for both occasions, unless you really can't afford two presents. To me givingg one present sends the message of, "It's too much of a hassle and I can't be bothered to get you two presents." Besides, the reason for a Christmas present and a birthday present are different. It's also unfair to the person since everyone else gets seperate presents just because they're not close to Christmas.
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Post by peachvampiress » Sun Dec 04, 2005 1:09 am

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Personally I would get two presents for both occasions, unless you really can't afford two presents. To me givingg one present sends the message of, "It's too much of a hassle and I can't be bothered to get you two presents." Besides, the reason for a Christmas present and a birthday present are different. It's also unfair to the person since everyone else gets seperate presents just because they're not close to Christmas.
See, this is what she explained to me and I agree. The problem was, especially in highschool, was that I wanted to buy gifts for all my friends, which came to about five or six people depending on what grade I was in at the time, as well as my parents and my brother. And the fact that I never had a job during highschool made things especially tricky. So I'd always try to get Robyn something a bit better then what I was able to get for everyone else.
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Post by Tiff » Sun Dec 04, 2005 1:18 am

I agree with your friend and with Kameko. My mom's birthday is Jan. 2nd, which isn't TOO close to christmas, but close enough. We always did something seperate, and got her seperate presents. I thikn that her birthday should be acknowledged and celebrated just as much as she celebrates everyone else's.

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Post by Blackat » Sun Dec 04, 2005 3:23 am

I've run into this problem many times before - my Mum's birthday is on Boxing Day, my Nephew's birthday is on the 20th of December, and mine's on the 5th of January! XD

With Mum's birthday, we always get her two seperate gifts to make her feel better, because when she was a kid she never got proper Birthday parties because of the time of year and all. The same goes for my nephew. As for me, I've always had Birthday parties, but only recently I've stopped having them because it just gets too difficult with people going on holidays and such. With presents, I can usually get away with asking for one big present for both Christmas and my Birthday. (Last year I asked for an ipod mini!) But often I get seperate presents for both, but it really all depends on our money situtation and such.

I guess the whole issue depends on how it's handled and what's traditional in your family.

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Post by Chibisteven » Sun Dec 04, 2005 4:05 am

I don't think I've ever ran into this problem before. However, I give gifts for two separate occasions simply because it's the nice thing to do.

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Post by Sailorasteroid » Sun Dec 04, 2005 7:52 am

If you'll bring up your calendar, you'll see that my birthday is on the 21st. So it's always been an issue for my family. When I was little, there were enough toys and things I wanted that everyone could get me both a birthday present and a christmas present. But as I grew older, I made a deal that people should give me cash for my birthday and a present for xmas. And on some occassions, I was able to arrange a recurring birthday present--my aunt every year renews my subscription to the Reader's Digest.

Actually, it's been getting harder and harder to tell people what I want. There's something just plain wrong about telling your grandmother that you want her to buy you a hentai dating sim off of J-list.com.
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Post by jupiter23 » Sun Dec 04, 2005 12:02 pm

My birthday is an exact week before Christmas eve, and yes, it kind of makes me feel left out if I get one present that is supposed to cover my birthday and Christmas. Nearly everyone else I know gets separate gifts on their birthdays, so why should it be any different for me just because my birthday is so close to Christmas? I can understand if they do it because they don't have a lot of money like me, but I still try to get people separate gifts for their birthdays and for Christmas when their birthdays are close to Christmas.
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Post by Butterscotch » Sun Dec 04, 2005 6:22 pm

My step-father's birthday is New Year's Eve. I always make sure to get him two presents, though I don't think he'd mind terribly if I got him one really great gift. But then, he's a fairly easy-going man.

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Post by RoastedTwinkies » Sun Dec 04, 2005 11:43 pm

My sister's birthday is on Dec. 17, so it's aways been an issue in our family. Most of the time, people gave her one present as a birthday/Christmas gift. She always complained for the reasons other people already mentioned.

So, I think it's better to get two seperate presents for the person if you can afford it. Or get them one really big and expensive present like an X-Box 360 to make up for it.

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Post by DreamEmpress » Wed Dec 07, 2005 3:40 am

my friends sometimes complain because my birthday is Feb 1st. Far enough away from Christmas to be sort of comfortable with the idea of a separate gift, but still too soon to plan after christmas. (or so they say) Frankly I always feel it clashes with Valentine's Day.

Personally I agree with everyone. Two gifts are always polite and shows that you're being thoughtful of your friend's special day. (every birthday is special to me) Everyone likes to feel remembered on that day. Lumping it in with Christmas kind of feels frustrating. A friend of mine did that one year. Why I'm not sure. I just remember that it hurt some.

The only time I think one gift is acceptable is if you're having buget issues. That's not something you can always work around. Good friends usually understand. And like everyone says, if you give a really awesome gift, it takes a little of the sting off.

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Post by Senshi_of_Vision » Tue Nov 27, 2007 10:13 pm

found this topic while searching to make sure I didnt make a duplicate for another idea. with my best female friends birthday on the 26th of december my best friend in the whole world on Jan 12, my mom on feb 2nd and my son on feb 18th it gets pretty tough, so what I try to do is get them one significant gift on christmas then on their birthdays that way both days are acknowledged and my wallet doesnt scream uncle too much. Right now I got James one big gift for christmas and some dollar tree toys for his stocking and for his birthday i'll get him another big gift or maybe a couple little ones. Its just easier then trying to lump it all in one day it really isnt fair to a person to combine gifts specially since we dont have any real control over when were born lol.
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Post by Aishiteru » Wed Nov 28, 2007 4:58 pm

My birthday is exactly a week before Christmas, and I get "Happy Christmas Birthday" cards all the time! It used to bug me, but it's ok now. People usually make sure to give me something on both days.
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Post by silsmile » Wed Nov 28, 2007 7:01 pm

I think it's fine to give just one gift for each day, two if you're generous. I think it evens out.

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