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by Sailor Moon » Tue Feb 24, 2004 7:43 pm
I thought I was the only one who's done some irrelevant stuff on the boards and apologized endlessly. I had no idea their were other people. Well, I understand that "modding" and "warning" people for repeating themselves, or going off topic ahs a reason, since it distracts from the topic and may look silly. I, however, am a very understanding and forgiving person, and if someone was doing that on my board, I may get frustrated, I remember when I once had a message board that evil people kept invading so I kept deleting their weird, harsh messages, woah, off topic, but anyway, that was awhile ago.
Anyway, if people were repeating themselves and making off topic things on my board, I'd think it was cute and adorable. However, in other cases it may be annoying. I'd feel sorry for them though that they can't not repeat themselves. I'd give them chances and I'd think, what if they have mental or medical issues that, while they are perfectly normal in real life, make them repeat themselves on the internet constantly because they are paranoid that someone might make a misunderstanding and they'd keep thinking about it and what other people think. Yes, if someone had a spelling error on their website, I used to e-mail them about their spelling errors in fanfiction and websites, but that was awhile ago, and I ended up making typos while correcting them. Heh.
Anyway, if someone is repeating themselves about something, I'd think that maybe it's because othe rpeople on the board have different opinions and they are nervous that random internet surders will get the wrong idea because they may miss their opinion, or think because they are a member of the board that they have the opinion of others if they don't state their opinions over and over again. They may be worried that their opinion is unknown. If they can't type in paragrpahs, I would not ban them, I know I had that problem, I would tell them how they could be comprehended better. Just because they can't write in paragraphs doesn't mean they should be excluded from the fun discussions.
If they insult other board members opinions, I would not ban them, I would tell them that they should think about what they say and how it would affect others and to please not say it again because it hurt soemone else's feelings. If they repeat themselves I'd understand that they might have obsessive compulsive disorder, where if they don't repeat themselves they'll feel that their opinions aren't known and are worried about what random internet surfers may think. Instead of thinking about how the board may be spammed with their repetetiveness, I'd think about how much they are suffering having to be forced to repeat themselves and not being able to control it and having other people tell them to stop.
If they go off topic, I'd just tell them to please try to be on topic and kindly ask why they were off topic. If their posts constantly go from one thing to the enxt, I'd understand that they may have difficulty ins tating their opinions. If they talk about things that don't make sense, either their weird, or, perphaps their scitzophrenic. If they have multiple accounts, perhaps they have multiple personalities. They could have dissasociative identity disorder. I like to treat people with respect. I like to think about how they are suffering. If they come up with complicated, odd messages, perhaps their autistic, and can't comprehend simple things. Instead of thinking oh their spamming, I would rather wonder why they are spamming and if they can help it and whether or not they have control over it.
If they miss soemthing ro weren't paying attention, instead of thinking, oh they are doing it to be spiteful, I wodner, what if they have attention defecit disorder? What if they can't help it? What if they have amnesia or a short-term memory spane. They should not be deprived of the fun. Sure it may make things difficult, but I'd think of how they feel having to deal with such things. If they have multiple personalities, of course they are going to sound different. I like to think of was for everyone to be happy and help everyone and treat everyoen with kindness and respect, because if you were in their shoes you would know that they are in pain repeating themselves and having all these personalities and going off topic.
I don't think anyone should be deprived of using a board if they have a reason as to what they're doing. Is it their fault if they're born a certain way? It could have easily of been you or you or anyone. It could have been you who was chosen. Everyone has a reason for doing something, and if you put yourselves in their shoes, you can realize that they can be in pain. I like to think of how other's feel and how certain actions may affect them. Yes, I am clumsy and I can make mistakes. Everyone does. If someone repeats themselves or goes off topic, I feel symphathy. I'm a very caring person who likes to see things from everyone's point of view. However, that's my opinion.
This is your board, you make the rules, and you do not have to change them in order for it to be okay for things that you don't feel are okay. It's you're board, and you can decide whatever you want. I was not trying to challenge you're message, just I was trying to state that it is possible to help everybody, not just some people. I may think some people are weird, odd and strange, like some people who act like they don't have brains, but they too have their reasons for acting the way they do.
I am exactly like Sailor Moon. I want everyone to be able to be happy and I symphathize with everyone. Not everyone has the time to be understanding, so I understand if you just want to run a board, I understand completely. I just know that if people were doing something on my board, I'd try to help them and understand where they're coming from.
Wow, I must sound a little silly and I know this post may seem a little, well, odd, but I just wanted to try to show soemthing, I don;t know though, I like to delve into things. Anyway, rules are rules, and you're rules are you're rules and whether others like them or not, everyone must follow them because it's you're site and you're board and being able to be on it is a privilege for each individual member so we should respect your wishes.
people just don't know how to look for themselves. And if they're really THAT worried about it, PM one of the MODs or Admins.... I was only curious once about a topic, I PM'ed Tiffu, and got a response back rather quickly.
